Gallivanting around places and making new friends through couchsurfing
I used to be a skeptic when it comes to meeting strangers from the internet.
But my first couch-surfing experience in Bali in 2009 changed it all.
The wonderful friends that I have made through couchsurfing in Bali and the travel experiences we had together made my trip much more memorable than my other gallivanting travels.
I first stumbled upon the concept of couchsurfing while reading a travel magazine in 2009. Put simply, Couchsurfing is a global hospitality exchange network and website which connects travellers with people of the local community, who offer free accommodation or advice. Today, there are over three million members in 246 countries and the number is on the rise.
The concept of couchsurfing piqued my curiosity. I decided to check out the website, www.couchsurfing.com. As a travel buff, my wanderlust has brought me to many exotic countries as well as trails off the beaten track. I’ve always enjoyed interacting with locals during these travels. As I explored the website, it felt like a perfect fit for me. A couchsurfing experience will certainly add a new dimension to my travels, allow me to make new friends and explore these countries in a more in-depth manner, beyond just the surface exploration of these places.
My first couchsurfing experience in Bali, Indonesia: More than just a couch, 2009“What have I done to deserve it?”, I muttered to myself as the friendly Balinese boy brought me to my “couch” and presented me a welcome drink. My “couch” was neither a mere sofa set nor a spare bedroom that I was expecting.
I stood in awe at the door of a fully-furnished honeymoon suite in a spanking new villa. Fresh hibiscus flowers were nicely laid on the plush king-sized bed and the pillows. The luxurious room was complete with a television, nicely carved teak furniture, a jacuzzi tub, and a pool just a few steps’ away. That was my first incredible couchsurfing experience.
Before I set off for my backpacking trip in Indonesia, I was determined to make this trip different from my usual trips. I wanted a real taste of a couchsurfing experience – to stay with a couchsurfer.
I chanced upon the interesting profile of Elsha, an artist and Phil, her husband who is a retired psychologist in the couchsurfing website. The spiritedness of the husband and wife duo was infectious even from the profile description. The elderly couple from Hawaii had sold all their properties back home to move to Ubud, Bali in search of tranquility. Curious to find out more about their journey to Bali, I wrote to Elsha to request to couch-surf at her home. I was elated when she replied and said that she would be happy to host me.
Elsha turned out to be just as I had expected, a feisty and friendly lady. The couple had generously shared opened their doors to couchsurfers, or rather strangers like me. At their villa, I also befriended two other couchsurfers, Carol Schaffer, a doctor from America and Claudia Scheffer from The Netherlands and her friend, Maria Vetters from Germany. Once, I chatted with Phil and he shared the romantic love story of how he met his wife and the “heart-leaping” experience when he first caught sight of her.
On the third day, an unfortunate bicycle mishap landed me in a local hospital. I had to do a stitch on my lips and get treated for my badly bruised chin, kneecaps and palms. Elsha and Phil were gracious hosts and allowed me to stay for another day.
My new-found friend, Carol became my resident doctor in the villa. One evening, she came knocking on my room door with a headlight on her forehead “Is there a blackout outside?”, I asked innocently. “No, I brought this so that I can see your wounds better.” We had a good laugh The kind-hearted woman even brought me to a local pharmacy and prescribed a whole load of medication to prevent infection.
For the next week, Carol and I explored the town together, strolled through lush ricefields, visited art galleries and enjoyed many nice meals. We even met Carol’s Indonesian couchsurfing friend, Nyoman Suparta, a doctor in Gianya and learned interesting facts about the medical scene in Indonesia.
Though the bicycle incident disrupted my ambitious plans to travel around Indonesia, the couchsurfing experience made the nasty bicycle accident much more manageable than if I were to handle the emergency situation as a solo traveller. I was grateful that I had a “home” to return to after the mishap and friends that I could count on for help, despite the short time that we had known one another. Carol will be travelling to Asia this December and I’m looking forward to show her around Singapore.
Having a “whale” of a time at a picnic in the famous Vigeland Park in Oslo, Norway, 2009
A work trip brought me to faraway Oslo, the capital of Norway. When I first met Marianne, I was surprised to realise how tall she was. Marianne stood at a whopping height of 1.82 metres, something I totally did not expect from her profile picture. She became my tallest girl friend instantly.
Marianne was an active member of the couchsurfing community in Oslo and had played host to numerous travellers there. Though we were complete strangers, she was very friendly and put me at ease right from the start. She candidly suggested that we should have a picnic at the famous Vigeland Park, the largest sculpture park made by Norwegian sculptor, Gustav Vigeland.
Despite the looming dark clouds, we zipped to a supermarket and happily carted an instant barbecue pit, corns, chicken fillets, strawberries and even whalemeat to the park. That was the first time that I attempted placing a a piece of the largest mammal into my mouth. Sensing my apprehension, Marianne reassured me and described that whalemeal was like a cross between tuna and beef.The barbecued whalemeat tasted exactly like what she said and was surprisingly tasty. I gobbled it up in no time.
As a first-time visitor to the country, having a new-found friend to bring me to the park to admire the magnificent sculptures was a memorable experience. I will always remember that I had a ”whale” of a time, literally, at our little picnic in the gorgeous Vigeland Sculpture Park.
A taste of Japanese hospitality and insights of Japan from an expat in central Japan, 2010
During our three weeks’ backpacking trip in central Japan, we had a few interesting encounters with couchsurfers in Japan.
In Tokyo, Mizue Mori, an amicable Japanese woman in her early 40s, gave very precise instructions on where to meet her at the train station. Affluent in English, Mizue brought me to a local sushi bar and there, I tasted the freshest sushi that I have ever tasted. We also visited a art gallery, an anime shop in town and took a neo-print picture together as a memento. She even invited me to her home to meet her husband, Masaki. We had a great time chit-chatting about our cultures and she proudly showed me her tank of hermit crabs and cross-stitched handicrafts.
In Beppu, my friend and my travel mate, Mae, couchsurfed in the home of a young college girl, Asami Nambara. She readily accepted my couchsurfing request after a few email exchanges. Just before we reached her home, she sent me an email detailing instructions on how to get to her home and how to retrieve the keys to her apartment from her letterbox. When quizzed about whether having two travellers couchsurfing at her home was too much trouble for her, she replied, “Don’t worry, I’m a world traveller. I will stay in my friend’s place tonight. You can use anything in the house today.”
That day, we had the whole studio apartment to ourselves. Through the display of French words plastered on her walls, we caught a glimpse of the hard-working young student. We placed our present from Singapore with a thank-you note, slipped the keys back into the letterbox and left. The experience was somewhat surreal, having slept on someone’s bed without even meeting her in person.
Nara is not just about deers, parks and temples.
To me, Nara is special as it reminds me of the cozy couchsurfing experience at Yuki Miya’s home. Yuki spoke perfect English and interestingly, her suave-looking husband who works as a chef could not utter a word of English. Nonetheless, he was ever so smiling and made several attempts to speak short English words. When we arrived at her home, the tatami mats, comforters and pillows were nicely prepared for us in the bedroom. Two new towels and toothbrushes were neatly placed in the washroom. We were touched by the little gestures of kindness and the sincere hospitality of our hosts. We reciprocated with our presents from Singapore and took photographs as a memento. The next morning, her thoughtful husband even made us breakfast before walking us to the train station.
In Gifu, we couchsurfed at the home of 30-year-old Chris Gifford, an Australian expatriate. As a solo female traveller, I would never even consider couch-surfing at a man’s place but since there are two of us, we decided to give it a go. Chris was a friendly and cool chap from Australia. Three years ago, he ventured beyond his comfort zone and moved to Japan. He first started teaching English to little Japanese children before opening his cozy pub, Treehouse.
The fun-loving and animated Chris shared bizarre and hilarious stories about Japanese landlords and cultural and work habits that he could not fathom as a Westerner and shared his aspiration of setting up his sports academy for children there. It was refreshing to hear insights about facets of everyday life in Japan through the perspective of an expatriate. Chris recently emailed and shared that he will be closing the TreeHouse Bar soon and opening a new bar, Marquee on the main street of Gifu.
Instant Chemistry and a new-found friend in Athens, Greece, 2009
It is really amazing to discover how people across cultures can share such similar interests and that it takes no more than a casual meet-up to spark off the instant chemistry.
Even before I met Ina Melengolou, a designer by profession in person, I had a hunch that we would hit it off right away based on her profile description and the interests we had in common.
Over dinner at a quaint traditional Turkish restaurant, our conversations flowed endlessly. We chatted about everything under the sun, from arts, books to our families, travel stories and interesting couchsurfing experiences. By the end of the meal, we arranged to meet again the next day with a curator who was couchsurfing at her home.
In 2011, Ina travelled to Southeast Asia for a holiday break. I took a coach to Malacca to meet her. Together, we roamed the streets of Malacca, visited the Peranakan Museum and sampled the famous chendol and chicken rice balls.
To make her Malacca trip even more unforgettable, I brought her to her first foot reflexology session. Ina created a little commotion in the shop as the masseurs giggled and commented that she resembled internationally-acclaimed pop star, Michael Jackson. She denied exasperatedly and the masseurs broke into peals of laughter. We are still in touch by email regularly. Should I visit Greece one day, I know that my new-found friend, Ina will be there to welcome me with open arms.
My interactions with fellow couchsurfers in these countries have enriched my travel experiences immensely. One of the things that I really like about making new friends through the couchsurfing is that it open doors to people of diverse backgrounds, many whom I would not otherwise have crossed paths in my routine social circle. It is interesting to meet these like-minded people who share the love for travelling and often have very interesting personal stories and amazing travel experiences to tell.
To anyone who may be thinking about trying the couchsurfing for the first time, I would say, “Be brave, take the first step as the whole new world of exciting travels and new friends await.”
Horror stories of people getting murdered in foreign lands when they knocked on the wrong doors, literally using the couchsurfing platform are not uncommon One must take precautionary measures to meet the right couchsurfers in order to ensure an enriching and safe travel experience.
Useful tips when couchsurfing
1) Research, research and research
Don’t just write to the first good-looking face that you come across in the couchsurfing website. Take time to read through the person’s detailed profile to gauge the person’s personality. For people who are trying couchsurfing for the first time, I would strongly suggest that you stick with the same gender host or married couples. You can also go with “verified” members of couchsurfing community with good reviews from fellow couchsurfers who have met them and avoid dodgy characters who have not received any couchsurfers’ reviews to play safe.
2)Be a Santa Claus
Bring small gifts from home to share with your new friends and hosts. They don’t have to be expensive gifts, small tokens that are reflective of the country that you come from are often well-appreciated.
3)Learn about your own country
Do take some time to learn some fast facts about Singapore. This will allow you can strike a sound conversation and not fumble when your host asks you about questions about Singapore, for instance, the population size and the size of our island.
4)Have an inquisitive mind
People who are in the couchsurfing community tend to be more curious about people’s cultures and open-minded when it comes to travel experiences. With an inquisitive mind and a keen interest to learn about others’ cultures, you can be assured of a great couchsurfing experience.
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